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About a boy

Angelique Milevski  |  20 August 2015

Is it worth ditching your faith if it helps you get your dream boyfriend? Should we really have to hide parts of ourselves in order to be accepted? A teenager takes her dilemma straight to the top.

Dear God,

Life sucks.

I mean overall I guess it is okay. I’m not failing any of my subjects, I love my family and I have enough friends that I’m not considered ‘a loner’. The only problem is that I may have a tiny little crush. Okay, yes, fine: a massive crush.

I’m in a little situation and I need your great guidance.

I come from quite a religious family. I enjoy going to Sunday Mass and I enjoy singing in the choir. Now this may come as a surprise to you, but that isn’t considered as a very cool thing to do or enjoy. In fact, I get bagged about it regularly by my classmates.

I don’t really mind, because I know I have you on my side. I know that at the end of the day I will be on top of your list of ‘People going to Heaven’.

The boy I like, he’s quite popular and I don’t think I’m really cool enough. I mean, we have completely different friendship groups. I should probably move on, but he’s just so beautiful *insert appreciation tears here*. You did well God, you did very well.

How would I even talk to him? The one downfall of having really religious parents is that they don’t allow you to do anything! I can hardly breathe without them jumping down my throat. It’s literally go to school, come home, do homework, pray. I don’t have a life.

I am a strong believer in ‘you are what you eat’. I am also a strong believer of allowing your child some breathing space every once in a while. My parents are so embarrassing, it should be considered a crime. Could you even begin to imagine if I brought a boy home? He would run for the hills and I would try to join him.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my parents dearly, it’s just I need to live my own life. I mean people my age are partying and having fun, what fun am I having? The answer is none, zilch, nada, nothing.

Is this fair, God? I don’t think so. I want to have fun too.

I want to be popular, I want to have the boy of my dreams and if that means letting go of some of my faith, is that so bad? I have been completely and utterly faithful to you until now.

What do I do? Do I change myself or do I forget the boy? Is there some way I don’t have to do either? I need some guidance urgently.

Please help me.

Sincerely yours,

Desperately in Love

P.S. If you could please get back to me soon, that’d be great! I’m not too sure how the internet service is up there, so you could always text me or send me a letter. That is, only if Facebook doesn’t work for you.


View the reflection questions and activities for ‘About a boy' here  


Topic tags: responsiblerelationships, familylife, people’sstoriesoffaith, women’sspirituality

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